4 Ways to Protect Your Child from Trauma during a Divorce

Have you decided that it’s not worth any more efforts?

Are you two certain your marriage can no longer be repaired?

Have you decided to go your separate ways once and for all?

If you answered in yes to any of the above questions and have finalized your divorce, you need to make necessary arrangements pertaining to your child’s well-being. These arrangements typically include those for your child’s custody, visitation, living situation and arrangement order.

Divorce is never easy, especially when children are involved–there’s so much that you need to explain to them to help them with the transition. Ahead, we’ve elaborated on some ways you can keep your children protected from the trauma of divorce, separations, and custody conflicts.

Maintain Boundaries of Respect With Your Ex

No matter how many conflicts you may have with your former spouse, it would be best if you maintained the same level of respect in front of your children. Moms and dads are equally important and loveable for children–thus, criticizing your ex in front of your children can negatively impact the relationship between them. This criticism and the resulting impact will have adverse effects on your children’s self-esteem and behaviour.

Consider What Your Child Wants

If your spouse wronged youbut they were an excellent parent to your child, allow your child to meet them, even if you have full custody. Your child will be happier if they can reach out to both the parents. It’s not possible for a child to not miss their mom or dad if they loved them. Don’t make your child a part of your fight.

Don’t Make Your Children Communicate on Your Behalf

Often inadvertently, parents use their children to carry messages to their former partners– a practice that can significantly impact the child in the process. Being of an impressionable age, it’s highly likely that they will agree and you might even compromise their relationship with their parent–possibly also compromising their emotional and cognitive development. Keep your child as far as you can from your battle.

Reassure Your Children as Much as You Can

In most cases, children don’t say it, but they hold themselves guilty for the divorce. They might grow up believing that they were the cause of their parents’ divorce. To keep your child from this lifelong guilt, tell them the divorce wasn’t their fault and do this as much as you can. Talk to them about their feelings about the divorce and clear out all their confusions and concerns. You don’t have to shut out your child; this is the time when they’ll need you the most.

If you find it challenging to understand the child law post-divorce, seek help from expert children custody solicitors at Wembley Solicitors. We’ll help you understand all the legal issues and represent your case with reasoned arguments in the court and make sure your demands are met.

Call us at 02034173700 for an initial consultation.