The Ultimate Successful Parenting Toolkit for Separated Parents

According to the latest statistics, there are over 100,000 divorces in the UK each year. Many of these divorces involve children and result in nasty custody battles and disputes that rage on for months. During this time, the child or children in question are shuttled back and forth between parents or sent to stay with relatives such as grandparents. While getting a divorce can be one of the toughest things a person goes through, it is even harder on children and can result in trauma that impacts their entire life.

Impact of Poor Parenting After Divorce

Even after the divorce has been finalized and the custody agreement signed, many parents continue to fight and involve children in their petty squabbles. As a result, children have to deal with all the in-fighting while they are trying to cope with the difficult emotions that arise from the loss of cohesive family life. Many children develop deep psychological issues because their parents are unable to care for them properly. As they grow older, they have trouble with intimacy and commitment and are unable to lead full lives due to the trauma of poor parenting.

Building A Successful Parenting Plan

Being a good parent does not mean you have to be perfect and that you aren’t allowed to make mistakes. It simply requires you to be more emotionally available and sympathetic to what your child must be feeling. Here are some important aspects that you need to focus on to ensure the health and happiness of your child and build an effective long-term parenting plan:

1. Have a better understanding of conflict and behavioural issues and make sure your reaction to disruptive and difficult behaviour of the child is positive and helpful.
2. Never play the blame game in front of the child and refrain from saying bad things about your spouse to avoid creating feelings of ill will in your child.
3. Understand that your child may need more attention and more emotional support after the separation and be prepared to address their needs.
4. Engage in open communication with your child and explain to them the cause of the breakup to prevent them from engaging in self-blame and other destructive behaviours
5. Hire a family consultant to help you deal with strong emotions, difficulties with your spouse, unhealthy patterns of behaviours, and other difficult situations. Consultants are therapeutically trained and understand the emotional and psychological difficulties faced by both parents and children and are better equipped to bring clarity to the situation.

Need Help with Your Child Custody Dispute in London?

Wembley Solicitors offers premium legal assistance in Middlesex, UK, to people going through a divorce and in need of expert children custody and family law solicitors. Contact us today for friendly advice on your case!